A guy meets a girl. They get acquainted, go on dates, see each other from time to time, and talk over telephone and in person to know each other better. And if he likes her, he starts to think what it leads to. If a guy falls in love with a girl, the last thing he wants is to lose her.
If he is experienced in long-term relationships, he already knows what to do to develop it the right way.
But sometimes it happens that although a guy dated quite a few girls, and the relationships were more or serious, he was never able to learn any lessons. He simply never knew how to develop a committed relationship and make her stay. In this case, the following tips will be of some help.
Why is it important to develop a relationship with a girl?
Why do you need to know how to develop a relationship with a girl? If you trust to chance and let it go, the relationship may go wrong and end up with heartbreak. If you want to make sure it doesn’t happen that way, you need to learn how to make a relationship work.
If you really like the girl and do not want to get yourself in a dead end relationship, you need to learn how to keep going on.
This is not only true to newbies who are in a relationship for the first time. Even a guy who has been in a relationship for a long time may slip up and lose everything in a single moment. This is why these tips will be helpful for young boys and men. The article is divided into sections, describing the process step by step. Meeting the girl, the start of the relationship, a committed relationship etc.
Step 1. Meeting the girl.
Let’s say, you just met a really pretty girl. The first thing to remember is, no matter what your intentions are (even if they’re pretty obvious), is that you should always act like a gentleman. You want to make sure to behave like any of these girls may be that special one. Do not say or do anything that might spoil it.
For example, if a guy only cares about her looks, he might decide that all he wants is a one night stand. He seduces her and acts like a careless playboy to have fun with, and nothing more.
After getting to know her better, he might realize he likes her as a person. He would be looking for more than a one night stand. But the girl has got that first impression that he’s not serious and only cares about her body. I will push her away. She will not want to have a long term relationship with that kind of person, and it will be extremely hard to change her mind.
And this is why you should always remember that any girl could be the one. So do not spoil the first impression by acting like a pick up artist. It will be hard to change her opinion later on. So just be natural and don’t show off too much.
Step 2. Dating.
It’s the same thing here. If you try hard to get her into bed, she’s going to notice it and decide that there can be no meaningful relationship between you two. Well, there are girls out there who do not care about having a committed relationship. If she’s one of them, no need to worry.
But if you see she’s not a dummy, make sure to show the best of yourself. Show her that you are serious, and that you are looking for a committed relationship. Go slow. But not too slow, or you end up in the friendzone. If you like the girl and you want to get closer, you have to prove you’re worth it. Let her know that it’s not just the looks that matter and that you like her as a person.
Step 3. The Start of the Relationship.
If she’s already in a relationship with you, it means she definitely likes you and you have been doing everything right so far. When the relationship is just beginning, she is observing you to see what kind of person you are and if you are worth it or not. So if want to get a real relationship with her, your main task here is to keep on top of things. Do not ruin what you have already done.
The one thing you should do at the start is to prove her that you two can take the next step to a committed relationship. What do you need to do?
Keep developing your relationship. Do not lose the spark between each other. When everything calms down, all the days are the same and the relationship gets boring. Almost 90% of the couples break up at the start because they get bored with each other and do not feel the same.
This is why it’s very important to stay away from monotony and dullness. And here is what you need to do. Always change the way you spend the time together. Every day should be different: a movie night, thatre, bowling, ice skating, walking in the parks and by the water. Sometimes it’s nice to stay in and order a pizza. Invite your friends or other couples to spend time together. These changes will keep the fire burning in your relationship.
If you prove her that it’s interesting to talk, walk, live and spend time together, she will surely want to move to the next step with you.
Step 3. A Committed Relationship.
Once you are in a committed relationship, the stakes are high. You either end up getting married and living “happily ever after” or in a painful breakup with a broken heart. So this is the stage where you need to do your best to make it work and to conquer the girl of your dreams. The aim of a committed relationship is to prove each other that you are two halves of one.
The tips from the previous steps will work here, too. Whether the relationship is serious or not, it is important not to let it go cold and move on to the next stage. A relationship should never become a routine. You should never get bored with each other. You should still have fun and enjoy life together. So never fail to amaze your girlfriend. Surprise her, take her on dates, and keep going out together. There should be a variety of activities.
The majority will have it wrong. In the beginning, it’s all nice. The guy is doing his best, surprising her and the time they spend together is always fun. But after a while, she finds him staring at the TV screen and chewing chips. She keeps walking around the house, unable to entertain herself. If you don’t give her attention, she will find it somewhere else. This is the reason most couples break up. The guy thinks that he has already conquered her love and he can relax now. But this is where the problems start.
The girl does not feel wanted anymore. She thinks that he lost his interest in her. She will start feeling sad and asking for more attention. If it goes on the same way, she will give up on the relationship and on him altogether. There will be someone out there who will adore and appreciate her, and the ex will kick himself for not treating her better.
Do not think that conquering her love in the beginning is enough to keep it going forever. You need to keep working on the relationship all the time, not just at the start. If you relax, chances are that it will end up bad for you.
Well, of course, it is not only the man who has to improve the relationship to make sure she is happy. But often times, men are the first to relax and let it go. They think they have got the girl and there’s no need to do anything else.